"You're Nobody Till Somebody Loves You."
"Old Standard" song title
"Can there be a love which does not make demand
on its object?"
"When one has once had the good luck to love
intensely, life is spent in trying to recapture that ardor and
"Love is a kind of warfare."
Twos are based in the Heart
Center. Their issues revolve around love and emotion. Relationships
of all kinds are the focus of Twos. They strive to connect with
others because being loved and appreciated is the primary goal.
As a result, they help many people and remember to celebrate others'
birthdays and special occasions. Twos like to unite people on
higher positive ground. Being liked and loved is important to
|Best Example of a Famous
"TWO": MELANIE GRIFFITH
|Sammy Davis, Jr.
||Lady Bird Johnson
||Counselor Troi, Star Trek
||Scarlett OHara, Gone With The
||Melanie Hamilton, Gone With The Wind
|Nat King Cole
||Glinda, The Good Witch of The North
The roles Twos play
extend from the lovers (Leo Busgalia) and the seductresses (Madonna)
and the selfless caregivers (Florence Nightingale, Mother Teresa)
to the extremes of the Jewish mothers and the stalkers like Glenn
Close in Fatal Attraction or Kathy Bates in Misery. A cynical
viewpoint of the less healthy examples is that Twos are the champions
of love, although achieved at the expense of others they deal
with. But the healthier types exemplify the archetypical goodness
and love of Glinda, The Good Witch of The North.
Twos continually strive to be loving and supportive of others and
often epitomize selfless service and compassionate nurturing.
Consequently, their attention can be focused on the needs and
wants of others, and their own needs can be repressed or expressed
indirectly. They are often unaware of their own motivations and
tend to become manipulative and proudly superior about their good
deeds. Twos are generous, friendly, warm-hearted, demonstrative,
romantic and sincere. They can also be sentimental, flattering,
people pleasing and intrusive.
People are often attracted to Twos because of their giving, loving
empathy, their ready willingness to engage and connect emotionally.
In addition, people like that Twos can make the objects of their
affection feel like the center of the Two's total attention. At
their best, Twos are unselfish, humble, altruistic and unconditionally
loving of others and themselves.
- It's easy for me to see the good in other
people, and I am quick to tell them what I like about them.
- I love it when people tell me what a great job I did for
them, but at the same time it's hard to accept their praise.
- It's really hard for me to just come right out and ask for
what I need.
- I love it when my boyfriend tells me how good it feels to
have me at his side when he takes me out.
- It's easy for me to give but very difficult to receive. Likewise,
it's really easy to help others but hard to let others help
- When I see stories of personal tragedy on the news, my heart
aches and I seem to know how the victims feel.
- Relationships are just about the most important thing in
life. Hmm, well they really are the most important things.
- I pretty much just know how to get people to like me.
- I'm the world's best listener, but have to restrain myself
from giving too much unsolicited advice.
- I feel good when people need me and when I can really help
them to be successful.
- My feelings can be extremely sensitive, but at the same time
there's a part of me that's tough as nails.
- I have a tendency to do too much for others and not enough
- I see myself as very thoughtful and generous. I just seem
to know what others want and need. I wish others could do
the same for me.
- I try never to let it show when I'm feeling needy or vulnerable.
- In intimate relationships I love merging with my partner.
- Whatever you're looking for, I can be it.
|The Helper, The Lover, The Altruist
|The main character (a 2 of course) sees herself
as loving, the answer to everyone's problems and all sweetness
and light (or the sexiest thing that ever lived), and
the theme revolves around her love making the world go
round for others.
|The need to be loved, liked and appreciated;
the need to praise and flatter others, and to avoid being
seen as needy; the need to be needed.
|Of being unlovable and unwanted.
|To be and feel like they are loved.
|"Do you like me?" Helping others,
giving others what they need even before they know what
they need themselves; making themselves indispensable
to others; "What do you need, and how can I fix you?"
|Repression. All defense mechanisms involve
a kind of repression--keeping anxiety-provoking feelings
or thoughts at a distance by pushing them down into the
unconscious. Twos repress their own needs so much that
they just aren't aware of them, and they become aware
only of the needs of others and their desire to take care
of other's needs.