"The future belongs to those who believe
in the beauty of their dreams."
"In despair there are the most intense
enjoyments, especially when one is very acutely conscious of the
hopelessness of one's position."
"I don't want the world to see me, Cause
I don't think that they'd understand. When everything's made to
be broken, I just want you to know who I am."
The Goo-Goo Dolls
Fours are based in the Heart
Center. Their issues revolve around love and emotion. They
live in the world of feelings and avoid being ordinary. They are
generally very creative, original and are often involved in the
arts. Fours constantly search for what's missing in their lives.
The search often focuses on relationships. Their intense emotions
range from deep melancholy to unbounded elation. Being unique
is important to Fours.
|Best Example of a Famous
"FOURS": GWYNETH PALTROW & ALLY MCBEAL
||Dorothy, Wizard of Oz
||Cathy (cartoon character)
||Charlie Brown (Peanuts)
||Edgar Alan Poe
||D. H. Lawrence
Fours have such
a flair for the dramatic and theatrical, that they can be the
central characters in their own melodramas. They are often referred
to as drama kings and queens. They are the Toulouse La Trecs,
the Judy Garlands and the Vincent Van Goghs—feeling uniquely
special, yet tragically flawed. Aesthetic, creative and original
with refined tastes, they can appear either melancholy or exuberant
Fours look deeply into their own interior seeking for a way to
express the intense emotional highs and lows they experience.
Romantic, sensitive, intuitive, and introspective, they can also
be self-absorbed, moody and temperamental. Fours value people
who are genuine and who interact without pretense.
Feeling different, feeling like outsiders, and feeling that no
one really understands them, fours amplify the feelings associated
with their fantasies because life seems more meaningful that way.
As a consequence, they can become self-indulgent, melancholic,
alienated and depressed.
People are often attracted to Fours because of their warmth, depth,
creativity, ability to feel so keenly, and their uniqueness and
emotional honesty. In relationships they are passionate, witty
and bond easily. At their best they are self-aware, regenerating,
profoundly creative in ways that touch others by their expression
of the universal human experience.
- I live in the world of feelings and often
wear my heart on my sleeve.
- I feel things very intensely.
- People don't really know how I feel and they
don't really understand me.
- I often feel like I'm on the outside looking
- I am really there for people in a very compassionate
way—especially when they're in crisis.
- No one can really help me when I'm depressed.
I just want somebody to listen and understand. I'll come out
when I'm ready.
- I tend to long for whatever I can't have.
- Something is always missing.
- I can't shake this feeling that deep down
I'm defective or flawed in some profound way.
- My relationships remind me of the tango:
you step forward, I step back; you step back, I step forward.
- I don't like it when people tell me I'm too
sensitive or that I'm overreacting.
- I enjoy fantasizing about being idealized
as a great artist or performer—somebody recognized for
his or her special greatness.
- I learned early on not to depend on anyone
else, to play alone and to solve my problems by myself.
- I'm still waiting for that perfect someone
who can recognize the true, special me hidden inside to come
and carry me away from it all. We can run away together.
- In my life I have been attracted to relationships
with people who are unavailable, unattainable, or not appropriate
in some way. Something about them is never quite right.
- I'm attracted to melancholy feelings. They
are like an emotionally comfortable place that arises from
my pain and loss.
- I'm drawn to what's most intense and real
in life -- death, sex, birth, and tragedy.
- I don't want to live an ordinary life, and
I have a talent for escaping the ordinary.
- Fears of being abandoned come up for me in
- I love that I feel so intuitively connected
to the Universe.
|The Artist, The Original Person, The Seeker,
|The main character (a 4 of course) sees herself
as unique and elite, and the plot involves finding the
never-ending search for the longed-for things that's are
missing to make life complete (often the perfect relationship)--but
it's all done with such individual self-expression, panache,
flair and depth.
|The need to be understood, the need to understand
others' feelings, to express their individuality, search
for meaning in life and avoid being ordinary.
|Of being without consistent personal identity,
abandonment, rejection, loss, not being special.
| To be special, to find themselves, create
|"What's missing here?" The best
in life is whatever is missing and there are faults in
what is available—romanticizing the future and the
past; what is aesthetically pleasing and deeply meaningful.
|Envy / Longing
|Introjection. This is carrying negative feelings
around inside of you, whether it's the negative feelings
of others that you pick up on and identify with, or it's
carrying around your own loss and suffering from your